Hey! Don't Worry...Sh#t Happens

Don't Worry
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Do you worry a lot? Well,stick around for a couple minutes. I'd like to share a short story with you.

One that hopefully will reassure you that even if life doesn't go the way you expected, and you feel like sh#t, everything will be alright.

If you don't worry, please leave a comment as to how you broke free from worry or better yet, how you stay clear of it.

So when I started this post, the main subject was worry. As I wrote and the theme developed more, it began to focus on expectations and disappointment also. Yeah, you're right, I can be a real scatter brain sometimes.

Hey, if you're human, chances are you have dealt with one or even both of these every once in awhile.

Have you ever had the feeling that you worry just a tad too much?  Alright, maybe you're one of the lucky ones that never has. Good for you.

How about this one: You have this awesome inspired moment when everything just falls into place, you celebrate by jumping up in the air shouting Yeah!

But nothing even comes close to turning out how you expected it would.

You're not alone.

Disappointment sucks, Not only that, if we're not careful, it can also lead to worry, which really sucks.

If our minds get crammed full of worry, there is no room for the good things in life. The grand-kids and  the kids asking us "why" every time we do something, the lovely spouse we share our life with. Priceless moments will be missed.

 We miss them only because we are too busy dreaming up future catastrophes which will probably never happen.

I can recall a  time in my life when I struggled with worry every day.

No, I didn't wake up one day and all of a sudden find myself overcome with worry, it was a little more subtle than that.
Worry has a way of sneaking up on you. It starts out by being concerned about something and before you know it: BAM. The mind goes into fast forward creating catastrophic events that very seldom happen.
Then the anxiety and grief creeps in. Not far behind is the stomach cramps and ulcers.

At first, it doesn't appear to be a problem. It feels natural.
Eventually over time, I believed worry was exactly what I needed to be doing. My way of dealing with things instead of really dealing with them.

Flood of Thoughts

So several months ago I was sitting out on my front porch enjoying a warm end of summer night. Just chilling out with the stars and the deer eating out of a bird feeder in my neighbors front yard.

All of a sudden, paragraphs and sentences start flowing into my head about worry and anxiety. Like somebody opened up the floodgates of thought.There were some really cool thoughts and ideas.

So I'm sitting there totally amazed as all this stuff comes rushing into my head.

 Finally it hit me. Dave...why are you not writing this down...you fool.

Normally, I would have a pen and paper close by. For some reason, this night I didn,t. So I jumped up out of my chair, grabbed a pen and paper and just started writing like a madman until it stopped.

If you're a blogger, you can definitely relate to this. I'm sure you had those moments where everything comes rushing in and you are in total awe. It's like somebody wrote an article and just stuck it in your head.
It is an exciting experience .

So, the next day I sat down at my computer and began to pull it all together. After three hours, I had managed to put together what appeared to be a full page of mumbo jumbo...no matter what I did, it just wasn't coming together the way I thought it would.

I was so upset, I jumped out of my chair and walked away from it. I came back to it after a few hours or so, sat down and reluctantly opened it back up again. After a few moments of staring at the screen, I began to type.Everything began to come together.

Now when something like this happens, you think wow. this is gonna be awesome. it all just came together, it was meant to be ...this is bound to go viral. Tons of shares, tons of comments.

Heck,I'll even put a Amazon link on there and make a ton of money at the same time.

Ouch

Well... it didn't quite turn out that way. I got some views ..but not what I expected considering this was a totally inspired endeavor. Plus my Amazon account was still registering 0 dollars.

So yea,I was a little disappointed. But I still had more to write. So I hyped myself up and got busy writing the 2nd installment and...surprise...surprise...the end results were just about the same with the 2nd as with the 1st.

 Now, I was a little more than disappointed. I was frustrated. How could all this stuff come to me so effortlessly like it was meant to be and then just...Bomb out

So, what's the point? Why did I even bother?

Light Bulb  Moment

But then I had this moment of Revelation. Kind of like a little slap on the side of the head.

Even though things didn't go quite the way I thought they would, that doesn't mean it wasn't a success. Who knows, maybe 1 person's life was changed  and I will never know about it.

So, I have arrived at a happy place, where if only one person was affected by what I wrote...it was worth the time and the effort.

What do you think?
Have you ever had something like this happen to you?
How did you feel?

This book played a big part in removing worry from my life
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Worrywort: Life is too Short to Worry About...

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Hi everybody. I hope you are all doing fine and life is going just the way you desire.

So you noticed the word worry in the title and being the intelligent person that you are you figured out that this is just another article on the old beaten down subject of how worry can ruin your life.

That's cool...if you are a happy go lucky type person who doesn't worry...congratulations. If you're not then hear me out for a short moment. 

Do you worry a lot? Do you worry excessively about money? whether or not you will have enough. Or maybe your job, how long will it last, will I get a promotion?

A Closer look

Let's take a closer look with a little experiment using an action that a large part of us utilize a large percentage of our lives. 
I found out by doing a search on Google that the average person walks about 5 miles per day. 

I don't know about you, but when I walk I don't concentrate too much on walking. My eyes, ears and feet all seem to work perfectly together for getting me where I need to go.

If your anything like me, your walking time is mostly spent on the cell phone, planning out the rest of the day or thinking of what fine restaurant you would like to dine at. While we walk we work, chat, and even have happy moments.

Worry Walk

Imagine yourself instead,walking down the street worrying about everything that could go wrong. Maybe that building will collapse and come tumbling down on me , or maybe the sidewalk will fall away from under my feet. The list of possibilities is endless.

With all of this stuff bouncing around in your head, it becomes very difficult to think about where your going to dine or how you plan to spend your evening. 

Because of all this noise, you miss out on all the finer things of life like the awesome sunrise or the bright colored flowers in the park. Instead we are stuck inside of our own little worry bubble waiting to burst.

Clear Your Mind

Clear Your Mind

Make believe is a wonderful thing. It sparks creativity, which builds huge skyscrapers in the sky, and technology that will knock your socks off.

In our mind, we can transport ourselves to the top of a snow-cap mountain, or better yet, sunbathing on the beach of our very own deserted island… way over on the other side of the world.

You are the Director

But what happens when the make believe turns dark and cloudy and we allow our minds to be filled with  destructive doomsday scenarios…AKA toxic worry

Have you ever finished writing out the bills for the month,  you no sooner get finished and immediately begin to wonder if you will be able to pay them the following month?

Before you know it you have a dark cloudy make believe sneak preview running in your head and guess what…You are the director. You determine how far the movie goes.

Whirlwind of Make Believe Disasters

If you will, just imagine this scenario for a quick moment

What if I don’t have enough money to pay the bills next month? I won’t be able to pay my gas or electric bill, they will come to my house, shut it down, and then I’ll freeze to death on a cold wintry night.

Or maybe I'll have to watch as my car is towed away because I am too broke to pay the car loan.

Worse yet, my home, what if I don’t have enough money to pay the mortgage. I could loose my home and all my belongs along with it. Then what…I’ll be homeless, living on the street with nothing to eat and nowhere to go

Stop the Noise

Eeeeech…(screeching brakes) put on the brakes, pull the damn plug, and fire the director of this trashy make believe movie. We can enter numerous other categories into this scenario, children, career...the list goes on.

I have been down this dark and scary path many times in the past. It is a lonely, dark, empty place.

Chaos…that’s what toxic worry creates

We are the directors of our minds. We can create happy go lucky moments or we can create dark cloudy chaos

Worry becomes toxic when we allow our minds to run out of control, slapping a gut wrenching hold on reality.

Worry in itself is not bad. It becomes dark and dangerous when we allow it to consume and destroy our well-being

Good healthy worry or concern will lead us to take necessary action to approach a situation head-on or avoid altogether.

Toxic worry can paralyze and sink us down into a very dark, cold and lonely place isolated in our own despair.

Solution

Well, what do we do…If you believe in Jesus… say a prayer man.

Stay in the present moment…if worry and anxiety try to reel you in…kill it.

 Left unchecked, worry can drag a person down, deep into the dark shadows of despair.

If you happen to be in a situation where you may loose everything, relax, don’t worry.

Do everything possible to put a halt to the situation or to avoid it altogether…if that doesn't work, let it go, and move on.

Whenever I feel a tinge of worry coming on, a popular song verse comes to mind 

                            “don’t worry…be happy…cause every
                                      little thing gonna be all right “ 

                                            It works every time.
 Everything will be all right ..Believe me; I have been there and back

        

Dale Carnegie teaches you how to stop worrying and start living
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About the Author: David is a writer for www.fixupthishouse.com  .A blog devoted to the homeowner. Information articles and step by step how to articles for some common household problems